“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed…until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” (Carl Jung)
“All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” (Blaire Pascal)
“One part of love is sweet and easy, something we fall into and are swept away by. But the other part is hard: it requires discipline, willpower, and opening your heart again and again to someone with whom you are angry, can’t stand, and do not like.” (Sam Keen, Hymns to an Unknown God: Awakening The Spirit In Everyday Life)
The interactions in your relationship seem so innocently current, tied simply to today’s unpaid bills or yesterday’s unmade bed. But these moments now, today and tomorrow with your spouse are “not independent in time but part of a casual chain with roots deep in your inner history” (Lifecycles). Your life, your marriage and all the feelings in them, which generate your actions, are drawn from a “momentum of these choices…you are an aggregation of life experiences stored in the limbic body” (Christopher Bache, PhD, Lifecycles).
“A truth cannot be created, only perceived” (Yogananda)
“In other words, all our perceptions and thoughts are colored by emotion.” (Fritjof Capra, The Web of Life)
“It is about a child of long ago and far away, and it is about the child of now. In you and me. Waiting behind the door of our hearts for something wonderful to happen.” (John Bradshaw, Homecoming: Reclaiming and Healing Your Inner Child)
“To sustain love, a man and a woman must continually be marrying and divorcing, moving with, against, away from, and beyond each other, saying ‘yes’ and ‘no’.” (Sam Keen, The Passionate Life: Stages of Loving)
“Through pride we are ever deceiving ourselves. But deep down below the surface of the average conscience a still, small voice says to us, something is out of tune.” (Carl Jung)
“Early emotional experiences knit long lasting patterns into the very fabric of the brain’s neural network.” (Thomas Lewis, General Theory of Love)
“You therefore enter the field of matrimony slightly blind, oblivious, and wholly unaware that your mother’s browbeating of your father and your dad’s emotional distance, when growing up, are creating much of the tension you feel towards your spouse.” (Bill O’Herron)
“To take the risk of loving, we must become vulnerable enough to test the radical proposition that knowledge of another and self-revelation will ultimately increase rather than decrease love. It is an awe-ful risk.” (Sam Keen, To Love and Be Loved)
“We are often oblivious to how it is that basic feelings states ‘own’ how we think (or don’t) as we operate on ‘automatic pilot’” (Emily A. Sterrett, Ph.D, The Science Behind Emotional Intelligence).
“That, I think, is the revelation…the study’s most important finding is that the only thing that matters in life is relationships.” (George Vaillant, The Harvard Grant Study; a 75-year longitudinal study of 268 physically and mentally healthy Harvard college sophomores from the classes of 1939–1944)
“Earliest experiences remain within each of us. Our whole existence is based on the vitality and the dynamic experiences of our very beginning. This period is physically and psychologically the foundation of our life and our experience and our relationship to the world.” (Ludwig Janus, MD, Echoes from the Womb)
“You cannot evaluate and integrate these old feelings. The blockage intensifies with time, as we learn more numbing techniques that work, that do not allow integration and eventual elimination of the patterns, they only allow skills that prolong the pattern.” (John Bradshaw, Homecoming)
“Stay with it. You will only have to do it again, another lifetime. Let your emotional right brain storm your rational, left brain by sitting alone for 30-40 minutes, over and over. Just like beaches erode and give way to the tides. Let yourself be undone by your own emotions. Pain will give way to relief, you will know where the longing comes from, and you will move closer to right now, this moment, not from it. This is what the storm is for, this is how you understand, this is where your life begins. Oh, to finish this life up fully, the unraveling dream.” (Bill O’Herron)
“Judge a man by his questions, not by his answers.” (Voltaire)
“Thinking is difficult, that’s why most people judge.” (Carl Jung)
“The right brain has not changed for 1,000’s of years. It has not evolved. It is the boss of this human experience and it is the same as it always was.” (Robert Monroe, Ultimate Journey)
“Because human beings remember with neurons, we are disposed to see more of what we have already seen…think just what we have already thought.” (Thomas Lewis, A General Theory of Love)
“Every atom in the body was created from the original and ongoing stellar attracting and destructive forces.” (Brian Swimme, The Universe Story)
“Often, the truly great and valuable lessons we learn in life are learned through pain. That’s why they call it ‘growing pains.’ It’s all about yin and yang. And that’s not something you order off column A at your local Chinese restaurant.” (Fran Drescher, Cancer, Schmancer)
“Truth is no match for emotions.” (Einstein)
“You have been examining others rather than yourself. True self-knowledge is indispensable for health or vitality. The recognition of the truth about the self simply means that you must first discover what you think about yourself” (Jane Roberts, Seth Speaks)
“What we do now echoes in eternity.” (Marcus Aurelius)
“Those that look outside dream, those that look inside Awaken.” (Carl Jung)
“We should take care not to make the intellect our god: it has, of course, powerful muscles but no personality. It cannot lead; it can only serve” (Einstein)
“The feminine always seems chaotic and complicated from the perspective of the masculine.” (David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man)
“Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people…whatever is rejected from the self, appears in the world as an event.” (Carl Jung)
“Tension of opposites provides order and dynamism of the universe” (Heraclitus)
“This brain learns through imitation, avoidance, and repetition until something becomes habitual. Information usually enters at this point without our conscious awareness. We can make much of this information conscious and use it to our benefit.” (Emily Sterrett, Ph.D, The Science Behind Emotional Intelligence)
“The greatest tragedy of the family is the unlived lives of the parents.” (Carl Jung)
“Painting my world with the longing and sorrow that move through me when I sit quietly, these are the tones of our world and the ones that will reveal real joy, our joy” (Bill O’Herron)
“The unconscious is dangerous only when our conscious attitude towards it becomes hopelessly false. And this danger grows in the measure that we practice repressions. But as soon as the patient begins to assimilate the contents that were previously unconscious, the danger from the side of the unconscious diminishes.” (Carl Jung, Modern Man in Search of a Soul)
“Nobody will press your buttons or reflect your asshole to you better than your woman. She will point out your weaknesses better than a boot camp drill sergeant.” (David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man)
“Our feelings began in our reptilian brain, millions of years ago. Thinking functions of the brain, as we know them today came millions of years later in the frontal lobes, called the ‘executive functions’ of the brain.” (Emily A. Sterrett, Ph.D, The Science Behind Emotional Intelligence)